INFP (Introverted-iNtuitive-Feeling-Prospecting) is one of the rarest personalities among the 16 Myers-Briggs Personality Type. It comprises 4% of the population which makes them and their ways quite unique compared to the majority.
They are gentle, dreaming, and peace-loving folks. However, behind their kind appearance are unseen massive ideals. Because of a certain peculiarity in this personality type, some people are curious. What’s really in the INFP mind? What do INFPs like and dislike?
To talk about the thoughts of INFP is a way complex discussion. But in this post, we’ll focus on one: what do INFPs dislike? I’m an INFP myself so I’m pretty familiar with it. Allow me to share a portion of our thought process.
11 Things INFPs Dislike and How They React To It
INFP likes and dislikes are conceptual. With such strong adherence to their own moral values, people can easily identify what INFPs dislike. Well, it’s any behavior and circumstances that oppose what they believe in. To shed some light, here are the 11 things INFPs dislike that you may need to know:
1. Conflicts and Long Arguments
INFPs love peace and harmony. While irritable people love sparking arguments just about anything, INFPs are quite the opposite. INFPs’ immense ability to empathize aims to understand every perspective which maintains cordial discussions. Seeing from other people’s perspective help keep amity. This way, clashes rarely come to INFPs.
However, some situations are inevitable and arguments still do come. How do INFPs react to it?
When INFPs face conflicts, their defense is utter silence. They are not fans of confrontations and arguments. They either ignore you –like you’re wearing an invisible cloak – or they just walk away.
If I could write what’s in their minds during unending arguments, it’s like… “I’m tired of this. Bye.” then they leave. Just like that. It’s not that they’re afraid. But for INFPs, fights are extremely exhausting.
2. Inequality, Bullying, and Discrimination
INFPs feel bad when one person gets left behind. Their empathy amplifies how a person could have felt in the midst of bullying and discrimination. They strongly relate to the feeling.
So when a crowd picks on someone, INFPs tend to exclude themselves from it. A crowd may cheer and laugh over other people’s weaknesses, but INFP resents such despicable situations.
INFPs also desire fairness. In a group setting, they choose decisions where everybody wins and benefits. It’s a hard pill for them when a portion of the group doesn’t experience the same treatment.
Moreover, when an INFP leads a group, they ask their members first if they agree with an idea. They don’t rub their plans on someone. Furthermore, they don’t discount the capability of every individual.
3. Social Interaction with Strangers
Since INFPs are introverts, they, too, get tired from too much social interaction. If you put an INFP in a party full of strangers, they probably would settle at the corner and wait for the event to finish.
Entertaining strangers is a legitimate INFP weakness.
Small talk takes part in INFP exhaustion. Normally, when we meet new people, we don’t ask about the meaning of life, do we? In other words, topics don’t go any further than stating your name, age, and such.
On contrary, INFPs crave depth and their motivation for socialization is mostly for meaning. They prefer quality time with people they know long enough. Sadly, parties and many social events don’t offer that depth.
4. Any form of Disrespect
“Don’t do unto others what you don’t want others to do unto you.”
This common proverb resonates a lot with the whole INFP character. INFPs uphold moral values the most. If you disrespect an INFP in any form, you’re most likely lodging on their blacklist.
INFPs are sensitive. Because they value and respect other people, they wish to receive the same treatment.
Also, INFPs are less likely to disrespect someone. They just can’t because if they did, immediate guilt and overthinking follow them.
5. Jobs that don’t cultivate their passion
Passion is INFP’s middle name. In the long run, passion affects the motivation and effectiveness of an INFP. It dictates whether an INFP will succeed or not, will continue to work or not.
Truth be told, INFPs exert extra focus on things they truly love – whether it’s a hobby, a game, or a person. As long as they’re passionate about it, they will excel in it.
An INFP can write endlessly and master the craft of writing (if it’s her passion), yet she can leave an office job regardless of their impact, their degree, and salary if it doesn’t draw meaning for an INFP.
This is why many INFPs feel lost today. Their jobs don’t nurture their passion and the passion doesn’t earn enough cash. They’re in a cage and it may take some time to realize a way out.
6. Uncalled criticisms
INFPs are idealists. In other words, they have visions of perfection. They carry this perfection onto the world and into themselves. Aside from idealism, they are also intrapersonally smart (knowledge of one’s self). However, these two traits would’ve been the worst combination.
Since INFPs are intrapersonally smart and are perfectionists, they are extremely aware of their flaws. Unfortunately, this makes them terribly self-critical.
So when people criticize the flaws that INFPs already know for themselves, it becomes an on-the-spot embarrassment. They already know their shortcomings – better than anyone. So when someone calls it out, they feel like they’re intentionally humiliated (even when it’s purely unintentional).
However, matured INFPs are more accepting and understanding of themselves. They welcome criticisms and know it’s for their own growth.
7. Being ignored and thought of as dumb
INFPs got a massive amount of creative, idealistic, and unique ideas. They have this inner genius, but their gentle aura oftentimes comes in the way. At first, no one realizes INFP’s intellect . And INFPs don’t like it.
Nobody takes them seriously unless they have proven it with auspicious achievements. So yeah, INFPs are oftentimes ignored and it can take time for people to realize how much an INFP has to offer.
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8. Invalidating their feelings and opinions
INFPs will respect your opinions as long as you respect theirs. As mentioned above, INFPs uphold their own ideals, and it’s difficult to change their minds (unless you give them better insights).
They can understand what you’re going through, where you’re coming from, and accept your opinions. Whatever you say, they would listen to it.
So what do INFPs hate? It’s when you invalidate the values and opinions they preserve. It will surely strike a nerve when you try to reject the significance of their statements.
9. Insensitive people
INFPs are highly sensitive to other people’s actions, behavior, words, and even gestures. They interpret intentions. They are low-key watching and evaluating your actions.
INFPs are sensitive about how they would interact with you. They’re careful with their words. They avoid offending you in any way. It’s their nature to bring compassion and empathy. So when someone lacks these traits, it again frustrates INFPs.
10. Acts of taking advantage
My high school best friend was a Valedictorian and a Math wizard. She’s ENFJ. While all my classmates copy her answers, I was at the corner trying to solve the Math equations on my own.
I had this integrity to not take advantage of my best friend. I will never! Lol.
In the same way, INFPs don’t want people to take advantage of their kindness. Although, they often had no choice because they’re too kind to say no. But deep down, INFPs reckon such acts.
They are unlikely to help those abusive people but are willing to extend a helping hand to those who genuinely need them.
11. Interrupting their thoughts
If you’re an INFP, can you think in the presence of noise distractions? I can’t.
INFPs are imaginative. They do pause a lot whenever they’re thinking. It helps envision ideal plans.
What INFPs hate isn’t the bustling noise. It’s when people interrupt their thoughts. The moment my ideas fly away is a downright disappointment. It drives me crazy and takes me numerous deep breaths to control some accumulating rage.
INFP is a gentle and calm personality. However, the size of their ideals and principles is way bigger than they seem. They are loyal to their ideals and values. So what basically angers and disappoints an INFP are all related to deterring their very own ideals and hindering them from what they truly want in life.
As easy as that. But as long as you preserve an INFP’s peace, they will surely reciprocate the same!
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