Can INFJs be dangerous?
Hmm. Being close with many INFJs, I love how they uplift the room with their presence.
No, not as rowdy, mischief-makers. Rather, you feel their comforting warmth.
I’ve known them for their amiable spirit.
However, don’t get it wrong. That doesn’t mean they don’t feel anger.
True enough, my ever-understanding INFJ friends have already proven how capable they are of wrath behind their gentleness. INFJs can “destroy” you, too.
I’ve seen them explode in rage.
Sometimes, it’s a violent roar. But other times, it’s silent with no remorse.
Now, how do INFJs “destroy” someone? Do they tear you down intentionally? In this post, let’s talk about it!
How INFJs Can Destroy You (When They’ve Had Enough)
If you cross an INFJ and push them to their limits, this is how INFJ revenge and comeback may look like:
1. The INFJ Door Slam
Unlike ENFJs, who confront people to settle disagreements, or INFPs, who distance themselves right after people did them wrong, the INFJ door slam is way more cold-blooded.
You won’t see it coming.
The INFJ door slam is a rare but decisive act where an INFJ cuts someone off emotionally and often physically, usually after repeated hurt or betrayal.
It is the final boundary when they feel their values, trust, or emotional well-being are deeply violated.
Say, your INFJ friend was so warm just a few days ago. Then suddenly, they cut ties by treating you like you’re invisible. You call out their name, but they ignore you.
It may look impulsive, but deep down, INFJs do it after a long, calculated consideration of all the pain you caused them.
Once they decide to slam the doors on you, it’s often final.
You know what’s more painful? The abandonment isn’t meant to guilt you. They simply concluded that you no longer contribute positively to their life.
This is one way INFJs will destroy you, so while they’re still trying to fix the relationship, do not play games with them.
2. They Call Out Your Motives
Although INFJs hate confrontation, they’ll break their silence when they see your actions consistently violating their moral code — to keep the group harmony.
So if an INFJ calls you out, you’ve proven yourself as an impudent troublemaker. You’re a nuisance for everyone else.
With that said, as Fe-users, INFJs are compelled to meet you head-on, exposing your hypocrisy.
But it won’t be a good experience.
Why? Because INFJs see your subtleties and weaknesses and will unapologetically bring them to light.
They’ve recognized your patterns.
INFJs might already have considered your upbringing, the friends you flock with, and your behaviors with other people.
They dissect people’s character.
Because they can read you now, they’ll unmask not just what you did, but why you did it.
They check in with the existing moral framework and compare you to anyone who’s doing it better than you — the model student, the top worker, the colleague who got it all together — to slam to your face how wrong, vain, and fruitless you are.
Expect brutal honesty masked in calm delivery.
3. INFJs Expose Your Logical Inconsistencies
INFJs combine introverted iNtuition (Ni) and introverted Thinking (Ti) to spot contradictions in your logic.
They’ll ask calm but sharp questions that highlight how your values don’t line up with your actions. Or how your plans are bound to fail.
Worse, just like in #2, they’ll point out how others already did your plans, and surprise, surprise, they failed.
They do this not to hurt you, but to prove your reasoning is flawed and save you from the disaster. It’s an intellectual destruction.
It’s not a problem with Thinkers who could accept constructive criticisms and reality checks.
But if you’re a Feeler, ouch, it will sting. You wouldn’t try to breathe the same air as that INFJ again.
4. INFJs Mirror You (And Your Bad Behaviors!)
I’m an INFP, and I often call myself an “information sponge” because I enthusiastically mimic new, appealing techniques I learn from people. That’s my Extraverted Thinking (Te) working.
Meanwhile, INFJs have Fe, so I would call them “emotion sponges.” They have a large capacity for empathy and mirroring people’s emotions.
With that said, they make awesome conversationalists. They can effortlessly emulate your energy, and leave you satisfied after talking with them.
However, an INFJ mirroring you isn’t always rainbows. Especially if you’re a rude, all high-and-mighty one.
When someone repeatedly treats them poorly, INFJs echo that attitude.
If you’re cold, they’ll freeze you out. If you’re manipulative, they’ll play your game back.
I remember my INFJ friend’s story about her awful boss. Her boss kept cussing, humiliating, and making everyone’s lives extra hard in the office.
So one day, she was fed up.
My INFJ friend shouted and cursed back at her boss.
I’m like, “You cussed your boss out???”
She laughed. Not only that, she won’t even show up when the boss calls for her.
Eventually, her boss soon learned to be more cautious with my INFJ friend. The old guy stopped picking on my friend’s department after that.
He’d better not cross her, or he’ll get a “GOODBYE” e-mail, and their operation will have to stop for at least a month.
This is one way INFJs are dangerous!
Conclusion
The above list are ways how INFJs can destroy you. But not to be a menace! Rather, they want people to just live in peace.
However, if people persistently test their values, take advantage of their kindness, or erode their trust, INFJs can switch off — gradually.
They observe you closely until they decide it’s time to switch off their warmth.
Either it’s rage, a brutal comeback, or silence, INFJs make sure they’re being rational and sure about their actions.
They don’t do it without a reason.
So, if you’re an INFJ, have you ever done the things above? What pushed you to do it?
Share your experiences below!
Thanks for reading, God bless! 🙂
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