Did an INFJ catch your attention? Was it their good conversation skills? Their contagious energy? Or was it the intimidation from the sharp, resting faces?
Well, well. Can’t blame you. INFJs are fascinating individuals.
As an INFP, I love my INFJ friends!
They speak with purpose. They are witty and have a way with words.
They may look fun, easy-going, and extroverted with their friends, but behind the heartwarming sphere, INFJs are deep and critical thinkers.
So, if you wish to connect with them and step closer to their circle, you’re in the right place.
In this post, we’ll talk about the traits INFJs are attracted to.
Will you be a likable person for an these idealists? Who are INFJs attracted to?
Let’s get into it!
5 Traits INFJs Find Attractive
Here are 5 traits that attract INFJs:
1. INFJs are attracted to people with depth.
INFJs are reflective and curious about life’s bigger questions.
Out of all the Feeling personality types, INFJs are one of the most analytical. They strive to rationalize every piece of information and situation they encounter.
They ask several “why” and “how” questions. It’s how their minds operate by default.
This explains why they’re drawn to people who think. I mean, those people who ponder about life — people who ask themselves hard questions.
INFJs love deep conversations.
They want to know the story behind why you pursued an engineering degree. What are your family’s opinions about it?
How about your goals? What motivates you?
Talk about a fictional character. Why did it act the way it did, and what was going on in the author’s mind as he was writing them?
Can you blame a villain? Are heroes to be praised or are they simply villains, too, but on the victorious side of the story?
If you’re the type to sit with your thoughts, question your beliefs, or wonder about the meaning of life, you’re already speaking the INFJ language.
That’s one attractive mind for an INFJ.
2. INFJs are attracted to kindness.
Now, let’s say you got depth and is the smartest person in the class.
However, you’re rude.
Hmm… Sorry to say, but without a bit of niceties, an INFJ may even ignore you for the rest of your life.
You might be door slammed even before you get to knock.
INFJs are highly attuned to empathy and emotional depth. They’re attracted to people who treat others with genuine care and respect.
They tend to befriend the quieter ones, whom they feel have kind hearts.
As empaths and intuitives, INFJs can immediately sense fake kindness. One inconsistency, and they will figure out your pretentious behavior.
We wouldn’t want that if we aim to be friends with an INFJ.
So choose to be kind. If you have ulterior motives for getting close to them, they’ll know it.
3. INFJs gravitate toward people who add/improve their thoughts.
Have you ever had a conversation with someone and felt like you’ve been smarter talking with them?
Not only that, but you’re also entertained and satisfied?
Well, INFJs are attracted to people who can open new perspectives for them.
They are attracted to people who can fill a missing piece in their puzzle using ideas and reason.
If you can be a co-author in their thoughts, they will like – or even love you – for that.
This is mostly true for INFJ’s compatibility with Ne types such as INFP, INTP, ENFP, and ENTP.
These Ne users can effortlessly convey new ideas that may spark inspiration, which expands INFJ’s horizons.
You don’t have to be a genius.
But if you have a unique way of seeing life—an insight, a perspective, or even just a lifestyle that broadens their own worldview—INFJs will find that magnetic.
4. Being predictably unpredictable.
Of course, INFJs prefer everything organized and calculated. They expect the unexpected and seek solutions for every possible problem.
However, did you know that INFJs are attracted to personalities who can bring a bit of unpredictability, too?
They gravitate to people who add color to their already anticipated life.
See, INFJs dislike big surprises. It would only stress them.
A birthday surprise where you gather their family and friends at a venue?
I tell you, if an INFJ catches on that, it would drive them mad just by thinking how they will react. They’ll feel cornered.
However, they love the unpredictability in such a way that adds an unexpected insight.
Say, you just dropped them some wisdom that solved their long-time troubles.
If you win a contest out of nowhere or reveal a hidden talent, it wows them. You become interesting in their eyes.
They adore people who can bring spontaneity and flavor to an uneventful situation without ruining the plan.
Be predictably unpredictable without trying too hard, and they will naturally vibe with you.
5. INFJs love a good sense of humor.
INFJs may not be fans of slapstick humor, where comedians make clumsy, exaggerated actions to make people laugh.
Rather, they find subtleties and depth funnier. They prefer clever jokes, such as wordplays, which require some context or insight to fully appreciate.
Dry humor, where the person tells a joke seriously with a matter-of-fact tone, will also make them laugh.
Clueless fellas make the best unintentional jokes.
A good sense of humor, like everyone else, will attract an INFJ! 🙂
There you go! These are the traits that INFJs find attractive. If you’re interested in befriending or getting close to them, you might want to consider the list above!
That’s it. Thanks for reading! 🙂
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