Taylor Swift, Oprah Winfrey, Mahatma Gandhi… Do you know what they all have in common (aside from their millions of followers, of course)? They’re all INFJs!
It’s no doubt that INFJs are capable of being successful. They have a unique and innate gift of having a positive impact on the lives of others. But how do they do it? What’s their key to success?
Keep reading for some of these INFJ success tips…
What Does Success Look Like For an INFJ?
If we could sum up what success looks like for an INFJ in three words, it would be stability, appreciation, and contentment. That’s about it.
Unlike other MBTI personality types, INFJs have a more relative meaning to the word success. It’s not like an ENTJ who sees success as a tangible reward or INTJ who considers themselves successful when they reach a promotion.
For an INFJ, success is going home and not worrying about what you’ll do tomorrow. It’s receiving a message from your friends asking how you are. It’s seeing what you have and not wishing for anything more.
As an INFJ, whenever people ask me what I think about success, I always say this, “Success is a state of mind.” If I would equate success to owning the latest iPhone or wearing the most expensive clothing, then I will never be successful.
But if I train my mind to appreciate what I already have, be grateful for my personal growth, and reduce my worries. Then, I think I’ll be successful soon enough.
6 Tips for INFJ to Live The Success They Envision
1. Don’t let worry keep holding you back.
When Michael Ian Black said, “You are your hardest critic,” it perfectly describes why many INFJs feel like they’re stuck in life.
The first tip you need if you don’t know how to be a successful INFJ is to lessen all the criticisms you have in your mind. Their judgment is often the first wall holding back INFJs from trying new experiences.
For example, when an INFJ receives an offer for a better work position, as much as they would love to, it gets hard to say yes. Why? Because they worry about the what-ifs and worst-case scenarios.
If you want to grow your career, start by shrugging off the worries and welcoming surprises.
2. Follow your gut feeling when you feel lost.
INFJs are the most intuitive people you will ever meet. Even before you say anything, they also know what you’re feeling. It almost feels like their mind readers—but they’re not.
If you’re an INFJ, intuition doesn’t only work on others but also on yourself! You can use your intuition for your own success by following what your gut feeling says about an important decision.
But remember… only stick to your gut feeling after you have exhausted all the logical possibilities.
You should consult your intuition when you’re stuck between two options and can’t pick one. Your instincts won’t always be correct. But it will surely stray you away from harm.
3. Keep listening to others. But don’t let them dictate your life.
There’s a difference between getting pushed over and hearing people out. You should definitely stick to the latter one.
INFJs are team players. They have always been and always will be. It’s an acquired skill INFJs developed over the years because of their introverted trait.
When there’s a meeting or debate, you’ll least likely find an INFJ initiating the conversation. But you can expect them to be reliable when you give them a task.
You have to capitalize on your listening skills to make well-thought answers if you want to be successful. But be cautious of people who undermine you because of your quietness.
Learn to speak up when you have to. And stay back when it’s not the time.
4. Find a hobby that will help you vent out your frustrations.
It’s one responsibility to listen to your friend’s rant. But to be the therapist and shock-absorber to all your friends is a whole another level of stress.
Trust me, as an INFJ, I know how hard it can be to function knowing that your friends are going through tough times. You’re constantly thinking about what you can do to help. And it’s also taking a toll on your work life.
To help you vent out your stresses, you can try out different hobbies like rock climbing or crocheting to make you feel relaxed. I recommend trying physical activities first since they’re both healthy for your body and mind.
But if you don’t like physical activities, you can always resort to every INFJs’ go-to hobby… like reading fictional books.
5. Go out and see friends more often.
INFJs are extroverted introverts. We love talking to people. But only for a short time, as our social battery drains out quickly!
If you want to be successful, eventually, you’ll have to expand your network of friends. But how do you do that? Well, aside from meeting friends of friends, you need to go to events.
It doesn’t always have to be work-related. Surprisingly, I’ve met quite a few successful people at parties as well. You’ll be shocked at how many possible clients, friends, and even partners you can meet in get-togethers.
When your social battery dies, you can call it a night and go home. You don’t have to pressure yourself to always be social. You need a balance of work-fun life. And by fun, I mean fun with friends and no fun alone at home.
6. Invest in yourself. It’s not a waste of money.
It may sound cliche, but money spent on making you feel better isn’t a waste.
As an INFJ, I understand why you’d rather spend your hard-earned money on others. But trust me, you have to lower it down a notch. You deserve to feel good too. You deserve that spa day, the latest NBA game, or a trip to the beach.
When you feel confident, it reflects on your performance at work. And if you perform well at work, eventually, your company will notice. Then, eventually, they’ll reward you with incentives for your work.
To be successful, you have to love yourself. And the first step to loving yourself is treating yourself right.
For INFJs, success isn’t a complicated milestone. Success doesn’t always mean money, fame, or following. For most INFJs, the indicator of a successful life is the fulfillment that they’re doing well. They’re not hurting anyone. And their friends and family love them.
You may not be the next great musician like Taylor or a multi-awarded celebrity like Oprah. But you can be the best version of yourself.
And for an INFJ, that’s what success looks like.
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