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5 Signs INFP Likes You Romantically Without Them Admitting it

When it comes to love, INFPs aim for genuine and long-term relationships. Although they are idealists and fantasize about romantic novels, INFP romance doesn’t develop like cheesy books and movies. Worse, it’s more of a hide-and-seek game.

INFPs are difficult to get to know. Yes, they are kind and gentle. But at the same time, they are also secretive, distant, and complex. 

So, if you’re planning to date an INFP, prepare for a cryptic venture. It’s tough to break down the INFP personality. And even when they open up, they test you multiple times and evaluate your responses in different situations.

I understand if you can’t estimate whether an INFP likes you romantically or not. They’re pretty good at hiding it.

But in this post, I will save you time. What happens to INFP when they like you? How to know if an INFP likes you romantically and not as a friend? 

To clear your confusion, allow me to reveal their approach to love. 

But before we proceed, let’s make a few clarifications.

INFP in Love Series:

Before continuing, make sure you’re on the right post. Check out the following blog posts:

If you think an INFP has a crush on you, but can’t confirm it, read this post: 

If you are attracted to an INFP but have no idea how to make them like you, read this one: 

But if you’ve spent some time getting to know an INFP and are still unsure whether they would reciprocate the love, then you can check the signs below. After all the patience, how can you tell if INFP likes you back?

5 Sure-fire Signs INFP Likes You Romantically

Disclaimer: This list is based on what I found common in my own and INFP friends’ experiences in dating. Hope these give you insights!

INFPs are sentimental and sincere to the people they trust. They deeply care for their family, friends, and loved ones. 

Since they are kindhearted individuals, it’s perplexing to discern whether they like you as a partner or not, if you’ve breached the friend zone or not. That said, it’s important not to confuse friendship with romance. 

Sometimes, INFPs unconsciously show hints. It depends on how sensitive you are to interpret them.

Without further ado, here are 5 signs INFP likes you:

1. They talk to you and care for you in private, but they ignore you in public.

INFPs are private people. They choose who they trust and rarely talk about themselves. 

Even though people see them as crybabies who easily get overwhelmed with emotions, that’s barely the truth.

The truth is, INFPs are emotionally adept at keeping personal problems to themselves. No one realizes the battles we are fighting. 

So if an INFP reveals their stories of anger, sorrow, and disappointment, it means they trust you. However, the romance here is still questionable. Even I open up my deepest thoughts to my most trusted friends. But that doesn’t mean I like them all romantically.

A better sign on how to tell if an INFP likes you romantically is when they ignore you in person. Yesss, weird right?

You probably had late-night talks and opened up about your goals, yet this INFP makes you feel like a stranger in person. Sounds familiar? Of course, it is. INFPs have a track record of ignoring people they like.

But rest assured, it’s not that an INFP is playing with you. 

Here are possible reasons INFP ignore you in public:

  • An INFP who has growing romantic feelings would feel awkward with you. 
  • They can’t even make eye contact, lest talk to someone they truly like.
  • They avoid impending gossips.
  • Teasing friends would make everything more embarrassing, so they avoid it.
  • They don’t want to look desperate for your attention.
  • They test your courage.

And when you ask them about ignoring you, their replies could range anywhere from “I’m shy” to “I didn’t see you” (even if they did). However, shying away from you in person is an absolute sign.

I remember myself intentionally walking in the opposite direction from someone I like. We’ve been chatting for months, but I was too shy to carry on a conversation in person. When the guy asked if I was avoiding him, I denied it. Good old days!

Also Read: The INFP Mind: 6 Best INFP Traits and Hidden Behaviors

2. Likes alone time with you but declines social invitations.

Have you ever invited an INFP to a party? How about asking them to hang out so you can introduce him/her to friends? I bet they declined!

INFPs are private people. From our perspective, we have no reason to go with you if your friends can keep you company. After all, we are aloof to strangers and won’t contribute anything to your group. Forcing us to meet new friends would be a disaster.

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INFPs have a different way of showing they care. How do INFPs express love? It’s quality time. We want to have purposeful talks with you, be fun and weird. 

But if you’re busy accommodating other friends, such quality time won’t happen. Instead, we’ll crouch at the corner, waiting to go home.

Alone time, for INFPs, doesn’t mean sexual intimacy. Rather, it could be a walk in the park, concerts, or assisting you with your projects. 

They’re going out of their way just to accompany you. They love to spend time with you alone without any distractions. It’s a legitimate sign they have growing romantic feelings for you. 

3. When you sense they’re jealous.

It’s rare to catch an INFP getting jealous. Even when they’re hurting, they won’t admit it. But once in a while, such strong emotions will reveal themselves. 

Often, INFPs get jealous when you give continuous attention to somebody else. If they feel you’ve been too approachable and affectionate to others, it’s off-putting for an INFP. 

Again, they won’t admit they’re jealous. But they will give you subtle hints, such as pushing you towards other men/women.

From my experience, I remember a guy who always brings up stories of his friend’s girlfriend. Not because he likes her, but because she was always hanging out with them. Maybe, he felt obligated to inform me about the girl. 

But when the guy (who’s supposed to like me) complimented this girl consecutively, it triggered jealousy.

I recall myself saying, “I’m not as beautiful as her,” and “you two look good together.” That was so pathetic of me, but that’s one way INFPs show jealousy without bluntly admitting it. 

If you’re sensitive to such responses, then you know that INFP is in love with you.

Related Post: INFP Jealousy: Are They Possessive of Their Partners?

4. Compliments your physical attributes. This means they “see” you.

Many INFPs can’t maintain eye contact. As an INFP, whenever I make eye contact, I’d describe the feeling as someone experiencing fear of heights. My vision becomes hazy for a split second. I’m not exaggerating!

Going back, INFPs observe behaviors more than physical appearance. Instead of highlighting your beauty, we notice people’s personalities more. 

Moreover, it’s rare for INFPs to really “look” at someone and compliment their appearance. Or at least it is for me. 

I only compliment people if I wholeheartedly think they’re fantastic. Anywhere below that always looked awkward and fake.

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Therefore, an INFP complimenting you is a game-changer. Once they compliment your smile, how your eyes twinkle, how it wrinkles, the hairstyle, and mannerisms, it means they’re watching you closer than you think.

5. Gets upset easily but they keep in touch with you.

INFPs are bubbly and childlike when you get to know them. Yet, they are also deep, sensitive, and affectionate. 

Also, INFPs have high moral standards and values. If an INFP already likes you, you’d notice how their standards shoot up.

Once they consider you their partner, they would put you on tests and expect a lot from you. They tend to get upset when you don’t meet their expectations.

The more they show their truest selves, the more they become sensitive. But if they keep talking to you despite disappointing them, it’s a good sign an INFP’s already into you. 

Because, truly, disappointed INFPs ignore or alienate people who offended them. They check them off the list in an instant. 

But if they continue to talk to you despite wronging them, then they have already built a tolerance for you. INFPs easily forgive people they love.


It may be a long way to an INFP’s heart. Yes, it takes patience to know them, but they sure are true and loyal partners.

Their lovers become a part of them. From an INFP perspective, relationships form a tag team where you will work through ups and downs and thrive through success.

INFPs are idealists even in relationships. They always think their current relationships are the best among the rest. (Don’t deny it). You become their pride.

Moreover, they are simple and appreciative. Your fight will be theirs, too.

If you’re currently pursuing an INFP, I hope it goes well! Observe these signs if INFP like you to give you insights!

That’s it. Thanks for reading! God bless!

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6 thoughts on “5 Signs INFP Likes You Romantically Without Them Admitting it”

  1. I had this experience of ignoring males that I liked.
    Now I’ve been married for 10 years to an ISFJ of all types, and we are super.
    However, I met an INFJ woman a few years ago in the church. I didn’t really pay attention to her.
    Then, I started looking for playmates for my 3-year-old daughter. Well, the INFJ has two sons, one a year older than my daughter. We started hanging out at the park, and slowly I started to like her unique INFJ way of being. She’s so chill that it’s crazy. Like a rock or an anchor, she has incredible calm about her.
    Well, she’s nice to me, listens to all my thoughts and tangents. And yet, it still was just only simply really nice when she had time to get together. And our husbands would hang out, too, and we started playing volleyball, then tennis.
    Then, I got injured, and she went out of her way to find something to wrap my arm in. It caught me off guard, though she was just being concerned.
    Well, every visit is comfortable, so I started to look forward to seeing her. She would arrive at the park with her kids, and I would be happy to see her.
    Then, she sat next to me on the bench while our husbands played tennis. We chatted, though I didn’t look at her much…just looked out at the tennis court. I was so happy she chose to sit next to me.
    So, when you said the first sign that an INFP likes you is that they ignore you….yes!! I started laughing when you nailed it right away. Because I have started ignoring her in public…I mean, I smile at her but continue doing what I’m doing and act like her presence is no biggie…when I actually really happy she there. But I’m not even going to hug her.
    She came over to me once in the parking lot to talk while our husbands were playing tennis. I was injured (I sprained my ankle) and my daughter had a meltdown, so I took her to sit in the car to calm down. Well, my friend sought me out!! Ahhh. I actually initially didn’t think she was heading my way for me. But then she sat down on a concrete slab near my car and didn’t speak. So, I started talking, and we chatted.
    Then, my daughter calmed down and I told my friend I was going to the play area just a small wats away from the tennis courts. She went, too! And we kept talking while our kids played together.
    Then, just recently she and husband and kids came over for pizza and board games.
    Well, my friend offered to go with me to pick up the pizza! I was soooo happy! My husband knew it, too, because I tell him everything. We had a fun, casual time going to get the pizza, just chatting non-stop. I went into hostess mode with her and made sure she was comfortable. I found myself treating her like an honored guest. She kept matching my courtesy with her own chill kind.
    But, again, in public or around people I halfway ignore her!

    1. Aww, that’s so nice! And funnily, INFPs have tendencies to “ignore” and “wait out” to be approached 🤣 then get befriended by that gentle and warm soul, coaxing us out of our cozy shells. Love the friendship you got there. <3 Thanks for sharing this, Heather!

  2. i had a crush on a certain barista who is idk just my type. his face, his body type, and aura is just amazing, he had a cool vibe in him yet seem down to earth at the same time. so i would sit in an area where i can see him right at front, because silly me thought it was that easy and i seem not noticeable and blends in. i made a huge mistake, when i try to sneak a peak on him as the timing was quite perfect or so i thought because he seems “busy”, but as i try to look at him we made an eye to eye contact that really shake me he was looking straight at my face and my eyes with this weird connection i feel(or im the only one who felt it) since then, i still sit where i am upfront him but i dont try to look on him even i know it is him. what a tragedy.

  3. I can relate to #1. I’m always energetic and fun through messages but when I need to interact in person, I act like I don’t know the guy lol

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