INFJs are like diamonds. Rare, unbreakable, and difficult duplicate. Because of their rarity and complexity, people often either wish or pretend to be like them. And although they try, they could never truly be like a true INFJ.
To clear your confusion and debunk your INFJ doubts, here are 25 signs you’re a true INFJ…
25 Signs You’re a True INFJ
1. Your social battery dies down fast.
One of the first signs you’re an INFJ is your short-lasting social battery. Two of the four cognitive stacks of INFJs are introverted: Ni (Introverted Intuition) and Ti (Introverted Thinking).
These two are why INFJs are extremely observant and analytical of everyone they interact with—which demands more mental energy.
When they talk to people, they give their 100% attention. So, being in social events where they need to interact with strangers drains INFJs’ social battery even faster.
2. You have a love-hate relationship with partying.
In connection with their short-lasting social battery, INFJs still like meeting new people. And we can blame their two extraverted cognitive functions, Fe and Se, for that.
INFJs are inquisitive. They love learning about humanities. So, the perfect way to deepen their knowledge is to go to parties where they can sit back and observe how people interact with each other.
But, if you see an INFJ at a party, you’d catch them sitting mindfully in the corner. They like parties, but they don’t like partying.
3. You trust your intuition more than most people’s opinion.
INFJs’ dominant cognitive stack in Ni or Introverted Intuition. Their intuition is the omnipresent guide that helps them make decisions. And unlike other personalities, INFJs’ intuition is almost, if not always, correct.
That’s why they would rather listen to their gut feeling than follow others’ lead.
4. You can easily spot a liar.
INFJs hate it when their friends do two things: lie and deny they’re lying.
Because of their Ni and Se, INFJs can observe odd behavior, which they use as clues when they suspect someone is lying. Additionally, their gut feeling also helps them decipher whether their friend is trustworthy or not.
Even if they don’t confront you, trust me, a true INFJ will catch you even if you think you’ve fooled them.
5. You tend to complete others’ sentences.
INFJs are fast thinkers. Since they enjoy studying people and academics, they’re used to thinking on their feet. That’s why they dislike slow-paced friends.
Even in conversations, INFJs can predict what someone will say even before they finish speaking. So, they end up completing others’ sentences—which, I know, can sometimes be annoying.
6. You have the urge to please everyone.
INFJs aim to please everyone. Whether it’s a close friend or an acquaintance, they go beyond what’s expected of them to accommodate everyone.
Their urge to please people roots in their aversion to conflict. Since their Fe makes them very empathetic, conflict causes them much emotional and mental stress. So, they think the best way to avoid conflict is by making everyone—but themselves—happy.
7. You are excellent at flirting.
Combining their excellent observational skills, intuition, and empathy, INFJs are among the best flirters among the other MBTI personalities.
INFJs know exactly what their partner wants to hear and do. They give perfectly timed compliments, and they’re excellent conversationalists. Overall, your dates won’t be boring if you’re with an INFJ.
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8. You are extremely indecisive.
INFJs second-guess themselves in everything. Amusingly, you’ll recognize a true INFJ once you give them the task of deciding. Because their answer will only be either: ‘You decide’ or ‘I can’t decide’. No in-between!
It’s difficult for INFJs to decide because they consider all possibilities—blame their Introverted Thinking. Whether it’s what’s for lunch or where they’ll go for vacation, they would rather let a stranger choose for them than do it themselves.
9. You would rather spend money on your loved ones than yourself.
INFJs are always thoughtful. Once they consider you close to them, they will shower you with appreciation through quality time, acts of service, or giving gifts.
INFJs are selfless enough that they are happier to spend their hard-earned money on you than on themselves. Because seeing their loved ones happy also makes them happy.
10. You daydream multiple times a day.
True INFJs have fantasized worlds inside their head that they visit multiple times a day. It’s not necessarily dystopian. Sometimes, it’s just a real-life scenario they replay because they want to relive the memory.
For INFJs, daydreaming is their escape from reality. Having to daydream about the fictional book character they’ve been reading or that one person they’ve been admiring in the middle of the day makes these introverts happy.
11. You love discussing intellectual puzzles.
Since INFJs study a lot, they also spend significant time contemplating what they’ve read. But that’s still not enough. They need someone with the same interest as them to discuss it.
Mostly, their co-equals in this context are INTJs. But it’s also hard to get a hold of INTJs. So, INFJs end up randomly inserting philosophical or social topics into daily conversations with friends.
12. You strive for perfection.
INFJs are kind to everyone but themselves. Whether it’s a quiz or their response to a text message, INFJs seek to always show their best foot forward. And it’s because they don’t like hearing negative comments about them.
13. You hyper-fixate on an activity, but you rarely finish it.
INFJs are guilty of learning a new hobby and then fixating on it so much that they’d rather do it than do their responsibilities. INFJs love arts and literature, and this is typically where you’ll see them hyper-fixated. So, it could be reading books, writing a novel, or even crocheting.
14. You always re-examine the meaning and purpose of your life.
Part of INFJs having strong moral principles is their regular examination of their stand on social issues. As most INFJs are socially and politically aware, they try their best to navigate their lives in a direction that aligns with their principles.
15. You are very empathetic.
INFJs’ auxiliary cognitive function is Fe or Extraverted feeling. This function is responsible for their deep empathy towards people. They can feel others’ emotions without having to personally talk to them. And they get hurt when others also get emotionally hurt.
16. You don’t easily let others see your vulnerable side.
An INFJ is not an open book. And if you thought they were, well, I’m sorry to say, but that’s only the facade they allow others to see.
Despite always looking confident and composed, INFJs are actually sensitive on the inside. But they don’t want others to see that because they’re scared people might abuse their vulnerability.
17. Your coping mechanism is isolation without any notice.
When their social battery dies out or when they’re in an extremely stressful situation, INFJs will disappear without notice. They primarily do this to re-evaluate themselves, re-think a solution, and recharge their energy,
18. You often feel like no one truly understands you.
According to Truity, INFJs are the rarest personality types, making up only two percent of the total population. That’s less than the percentage of likelihood of getting hit by lighting!
Because of their complex cognition, INFJs often feel like no one understands them. They rarely feel genuine mental and emotional connections with people—even their friends.
19. You are a serial procrastinator.
INFJs take a long time mentally and physically to prepare themselves for work. They make sure they’re fully rested and relaxed before they function. And this tedious process of preparation is why they lose precious time. So, they end up procrastinating.
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20. You are more motivated to work when you feel pressured.
INFJs thrive when they’re accountable. When they know people expect them to provide results, they will do their best to be excellent. Pressure is INFJs’ driving force to go beyond the bare minimum.
21. You are passionate about social issues.
INFJs care about others so much that they can’t turn a blind eye when one is suffering. They demand change when they see there’s mistreatment. And they’ll fight for you when they see you struggling.
22. You are a memory hoard.
INFJs love rekindling past memories, especially the good ones. Even if it’s a small piece of paper, INFJs will store it in their stash until they’re forced to dispose of it.
It’s difficult for them to throw away these objects because they feel like they’re also parting with the memories.
23. You are the least judgmental person among your friends.
INFJs are friends who say your dirtiest and most controversial secret. And they’ll still treat you with love and respect.
INFJs provide a safe space for their friends to share anything they want. It’s also why others call INFJs the therapists in the group.
24. You know precisely how to manipulate people through deceptive lies.
Although they don’t always do this, INFJs’ manipulation skills are lethal.
Since they observe and analyze your behavior, they know cues that will trigger specific reactions from their friends. Additionally, they are so good at lying that no one will notice it unless they’re cornered.
25. You hold back your brutal honesty to not hurt your friends.
INFJs try to be honest as much as they can. However, they hold back their brutal honesty because they know nobody can handle their frankness. So, instead, they only say what they think others can handle.
How to know if you have an INFJ personality? Simply, check if you have the majority of the 25 signs listed above.
If we summarize the 25 signs into three essential themes, it would be empathy, logic, and intuition. These three signs are what every true INFJ has.
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